Adjustment

Change is good—or is it?  I suppose we should qualify the change.  Change is the act or instance of becoming different.  Some life changes are devastating—others invigorating.   I remember the day I was hit with the reality HIM was cheating.  The pain ripping through me like a hot knife in butter.  Conversely, when I was approached to help build a company because of my expertise in my industry—that change was wonderful.  

When it comes to vehicles, I tend to fall in love—driving my vehicle until forced to give it up.  My Uncle used to tell me to fall in love with my horse—a man—any fur baby—but not my vehicle.  Advice which never sank in.  Once you name an animal, or a vehicle, they’re a part of the family.  Which is why it isn’t abnormal for me to be riding around in a 10 year old vehicle.  They are well taken care of—so you’d never know they were high miles and aged.  When it’s finally time to upgrade the vehicle, the change can be interesting.  These days the technology of today’s vehicle is dramatically different than 5-10 years ago.  If you want to really challenge yourself, purchase a vehicle from another state—have it shipped in—so no salesperson in your area wants to assist in your learning experience.  This is what I did.  Life challenge amplified.  

The first time I drove the new wheels, was to drive it home from where the hauler dropped it off.  A few blocks.  However, before the short trip was completed, I managed to text two friends “what the hell?”  Call one of my old gym trainers. All while car play blaring one of my playlists.  The Navigation decided to send me to a dealership in CT.  While the music is blaring and the navigation is commanding turns to get on the expressway.   I felt a fever coming on, then realized the butt warmers were on high.  Temp outside—84 degrees.  Nothing like having a vehicle with a brain.  

A few weeks prior, my neighbor pulled up in their new vehicle to ask me a question.  There were sticky notes all over the dash.  Reminders how to do things.  I laughed at them.  Only to find myself now—sitting in my garage googling “how to” videos to avoid contacting NASA or the CIA during my next trip down the road.  

Who knew operating a new vehicle would be so challenging.  Change—the joke life creates to keep us on our toes. 

Change with people can be even more difficult.  They say the heart wants what the heart wants.  However, you can’t build a kingdom with someone still craving attention from the village.  If they don’t appreciate the loyalty of your heart—then they aren’t worthy of you.  

The biggest waste of time is arguing with the fool and fanatic who doesn’t care about truth—loyalty—honesty— or reality, but only the victory of their beliefs and illusions. Never waste time on discussions which make no sense. There are people who, no matter what evidence is presented to them, do not have the ability to comprehend. Some are blinded by ego—hatred—resentment—the only thing they want is to be right—even if they lose a loyal soul to make themself right—even when they are undoubtedly incorrect.  

When ignorance screams—intelligence moves on. It is degrading for a brave, honest, intelligent person to waste time arguing with any narrow mind.  

Change is sometimes a causation of loyalty detaching from perfidious.  

If the brain is intact, the heart can make rational decisions.  Maybe I prefer to be around horses because they are the most sensitive creatures on earth.  Give them your heart and soul, they will give you their loyalty and trust.   An exchange humans have yet to master.  For those of you who have not experienced flying over a fence on a horse.  To ride a jumper— is like driving a Mac truck with the speed of a Porsche and the brain of a rocket scientist.   If that rocket scientist doesn’t trust you—they will send you to space.   

Thinking about horses always makes me digress.  Now where was I?  Oh yes….

If you want something different, excuses won’t get you there.  Drama will not accelerate the process.  Know the difference between those who stay to feed the soil and those who

come to grab the fruit.  In life, no amount of guilt can solve the past, and no amount of anxiety can change the future.  

Never discredit your gut instinct. You are not paranoid. Your body can pick up on bad

vibrations. If something deep inside of you says something is not right about a person or situation, trust it.  

Don’t be sad if you love someone and they do not love you back.  You lost someone who didn’t love you— however, they lost someone who loved them.  To receive unconditional love is rare.  

As you are shifting—you will begin to realize you are not the same person you used to be.  The things you used to tolerate will become intolerable. Where you once remained quiet—you will begin to speak your truth. Where you once battled and argued to defend yourself— you will now choose to remain silent. You will begin to understand the value of your voice — there are some situations which no longer deserve your time, energy or focus.

Life is about balance.

If someone treats you like an option—leave them like a choice

Be kind, but don’t let people abuse you. 

Trust, but don’t be deceived.

Be content, but never stop improving yourself.

They don’t lie to you because the truth will hurt your feelings. They lie to you because the truth might provoke you to make choices which won’t serve their interests.  Remember—The people who leave you feeling more alive after you’re with them are magic in human form.

The loudest one in the room is typically the weakest.  I’ve always respected anyone who can help to heal a heart they did not break.

In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.

Make sure everybody in your “boat” is adding power by rowing — not drilling holes to sink it while you’re not looking.

Know your circle.

Be thankful for today, because in the blink of an eye your entire life can change. 

Always remember, you don’t have a right to the cards you believe you should have been dealt. You have an obligation to play the hell out of the ones dealt in your hand.

When someone disrespects you, beware of the impulse to win respect. For disrespect is not a valuation of your worth, but a signal of their character. The best revenge—silence.    Kindness is loaning someone your strength instead of reminding them of their weakness.

A bottle of water can cost fifty cents in a supermarket.  The same bottle at the gym two dollars, three dollars at the cinema and six dollars on a plane.  The only cause of the change in value is the location.  The next time you are in an environment you feel worth nothing—you might just be in the wrong place.  Remember not all change is complicated and bad.  

Incorrect propaganda requires an ignorant audience to flourish.

Call back your energy and power from all corners, people, places and situations that have been draining, deceiving and negative.

Sometimes you don’t get what you hope for, because you deserve even better.

Live by three simple rules:

Love is nothing without action

Trust is nothing without proof

Apologies are nothing without change 

Change can be hard, complicated and complex. It can be the stepping stone to an amazing new life. All you have to do is put one foot forward to take the first step.

Hold you chin up—and strut!